Arguments

Arguments do two things.  One they show you how strong the relationship truly is. If you can make it through an argument then that means you are committing to the relationship. Whether it is a friendship, family member, or loved one, if you make it through an argument you are saying “I want to work on this with you.” If you don’t make it through the argument then your relationship probably wasn’t worth the efforts in the first place.

            The second thing that they do is show you a person’s true colors. When someone is upset and they dismiss you off jump they probably aren’t someone that you should trust. If they curse you out and call you everything but a child of God then that’s how they feel about you. They tell you your place in that person’s life, whether you want to believe it or not.

            The truth is that when you enter a relationship with a person, a relationship of any form, you are signing up for arguments. You are signing up to butting heads every now and then. You are signing up to have disagreements and to not see eye-to-eye on every issue.

            However, the beauty of relationships is you can choose if you want to enter into this agreement. You can choose if you want to argue with someone and move past it. You can choose to not deal with someone. You have a choice. “I believe in the brotherhood of all men. But I do not believe in wasting brotherhood on anyone who doesn’t want to practice it with me. Brotherhood is a two way street.” You don’t have to deal with someone who doesn’t want to treat you right.

            The bottom line is if you love someone as much as you claim you do, you’ll get past the argument. If you don’t, then move on.